In the edition of May of The Health Reports Published by the government agency Statistics Canada, for every 10 marriages 4 will be divorce before the 30 anniversary…. Around 71,000 couples divorce every year…
Sometimes we think, that we are still teenagers… Or if we are married… Sometime we think that we are still singles…
But when we saw the mirror, we realize that we have 30, 40, 45… 50… Or more years old..
We are married, we have a wife or husband, and we have children, grandchildren. We have a family.
Now we need to be more responsible, we need to have attitudes with maturity.
There are some people that don’t like the changes, the responsibility, the married life… And they want to live like an eternal teenagers…
I know, is hard growing up… But is part of our lives.. And is not bad… Actually is pretty cool.. We can decide, we can choose, and navigate through the life with more freedom… Yes… But always the freedom implicates responsibility.. If we decide to have a wife or husband… Then we need to take care of it..
If we decide to have children… Then we need to take care of them…
I want to explain, the importance to grow up and take the life with maturity…
For example… What happen if we are single and all our friends want to go together… (Just men or just woman) To Cuba, or Las Vegas… Or Cancun…, sounds great eh? That will be a great trip! Or what happen if it is coming the world cup and we are single and we want to go to all the games!! Or well… We want to watch all the games in the TV…. Good! Enjoy it! Just, don’t forget your job… Or.. What happen if we receive our pay check and we are single and we are saving money and we don’t have debts…and we decide to buy a Ferrari! Wow! Maybe we will have a lot of new friends!
But… What happen if we are married? Probably we are the only one of our friends with a wife, or husband, and we feel sometimes like prisoners…
The problem here, is that we are still thinking in a different level… Now… We can go to Cancun… But with our couple and have a great second honey moon! …. Or we can go to Las Vegas but with all our friends! Including our wife or husband!! Or we can go to have shopping to San Antonio with our husband!
Now is different, now we are the captains of the boat… And there are two captains! Two different person in the same boat… We need to decide together what is better for our family… And this is a big step to the maturity… The forties’ crisis is real yes… But you can deal with it together, not apart…
Is not the same that the two of them can have different hobbies and activities that they do alone… This is ok, actually is healthy for all…
Yes ok… And what is the connection with all of this and the statistic of divorce? Ok, let me tell you this: when we decide to have a life with someone else.. We need to make changes in our lives, we can’t be the same… We really need to change… We need to listen more than before, we need to be more generous, and need to focus in the other person besides ourselves… In a few words… We need to realize that
We are married…
If not, this could have a sad ending if we don’t realize that we are married… then we will divorce soon…
Don’t be afraid… Be married is a great thing… The changes need to be part of our lives… It doesn’t mean that if we are not married, then we can be teenagers forever… We also need to grow up… And live with responsibility…
So, take a moment, talk with your partner and be part of his or her life with freedom, but also with maturity and responsibility.